When You Lose Someone You Love....
66When You Lose Someone You Love
I was talking to my friend Chad a few days ago about his mom. He said she wasn't doing to well, but I said well I will keep praying to the big guy that she gets better soon. A few days had passed and he let me know she had passed. It devastated me. I know where she is there is no more pain or no more suffering, but that doesn't make it any easier when we lose someone we love very much. Chad's mom Betty was an awesome woman. I remember her as one who always had a smile on her face no matter what. She was always there to make us smile or laugh when things were tough. I know for me I have never experienced losing a mother or a father yet. So I really don't quite understand that bit of life yet. Yet I have lost a couple of grandfathers and a grandmother already. I know that was really hard for me.
The Legacy Betty Left Behind
Betty was an awesome woman. No doubt an awesome mother. We should choose to remember her with laughter and smiles cause why would we want to remember someone with tears and not so good stuff. Remember the times we spent with her just sitting around talking and having a good time. Or the times we would go out and she would sing. That woman could sing I tell you that much. She left us with lots of happy thoughts of her. We should remember her smiles and her love she had for everyone.
Betty Andres
The Process
I know they all saying losing someone you love is a process. Sometimes people tell you well at least you can be happy they are in a better place. You don't always want to hear that at the time of when that happens. You don't want to feel the guilt that they are gone and you are happy they are in a better place. But in time things do get better but it is always hard losing someone you love. You soon realise where they are there is no more suffering and no more pain. You can start to realise the good times and share them with others to keep there memory alive. I know when my Papa Ray died it was hard for me for a while, but then I came to realise also that God must of wanted him there with him for some reason. It does take time to heal from a death, but we must rejoice because in death there is a spirit alive somewhere in heaven watching down on us and making sure we are ok. From what I know of Betty she would of wanted us not to be sad but to be happy because she is in a better place now and one day we will all be together again. So this hub is for her. I love you Betty and you will be greatly missed by all of us.
Remember Me
Remember me with happiness and laughter cause if you remember me with tears and sorrow it would be best not to remember me at all.
CommentsLoading...
This is very nice Jen, I am sure that Chad appreciates it too!
Thanks ladies for the comments I appreciate it. And Marlene I am glad I could help you out a bit.
Love,
Jen
Wow. This is great Jen. I lost my Aunt a few montha ago and it was really hard for me, especially because I wasnt there with her. I lost my great grandmother when I was 12 and I was devastated. This hub will really help those who feel that they are alone or dont know how to handle their grief. You are right that the best way is to remember our loved ones for all the good things and good memories they left us with.
Thank you for the comment RLFairure, it is alot of encouragement to me to get comments it helps me to want to write more.
Jen
p.s. glad I could help you out a bit
Jen I know you mentioned that you felt you had wanted to write more about this lovely woman but I think you have a done a wonderful job at expressing how you felt about Betty. This is a beautiful tribute to her and you are touching peoples lives through your thoughts.
Beautiful Jen!
Hello, Jen. This subject is near and dear to my heart, as my father passed November 24th. I'm particularly touched that you wrote about a friend's mother -- with such warmth and affection that Betty could be your own mom.
Yes, it does help to know our loved one is no longer in pain and the suffering is over. They have moved into a better place. But the sad reality is, our world has a giant, empty hole where they used to be. I've been told that time diminishes that pain. I hope so. Meanwhile, sharing with other hubbers is wonderful grief therapy!! Thank you!!!
Hello Mighty Mom,
Thanks for your comments and I am sorry for your loss. I am glad this helped you a bit.
Jen
Time and the LORD heals all!
I've lost 3 people within 3 years that were very close to me, I never thought I'd get through it.
I'm not sure what sucks the most, knowing or not knowing that they are gonna die!
Great Hub!
Love Rose
I'm sorry for your lost. I don't know what to tell you. Like a Buddhist i know how to face my lost, but not what to say to really help others.
Yesterday I knew a friend of mine have lost his mom in december. She suicide herself. She jumped to the train.
She really were a wonderful mom I knew her just a little bit, but she always were so kind with all of us.
We have to life the moment, we have to forget what we wanted the life to be and it is not. We have to be sincere with ourselves so we will be able to be like that with others. We also have to love ourselves to love others and accept ourselves with all our good and bad things to accept all the people that live or work with us.
Doing so unless we will be happy with our behaviour and we will think we were there with him or her as much as we could.
Yes Jen I totally agree. I HATE sympathy cards for the same reason..at THAT moment all the wishes and platitudes just bounce off because although well intentioned, the grief is so present and stark and real. The best words I think and it covers it all is "I love you" After a time the hurt is still there but God brings memories and little things remind you of the person and cause a smile to come to your lips. It is so very important to LOVE completely and well while we are still on the earth where we can tell them every day "I love you" and speak into their lives. We can still talk to them one way towards Heaven after they die and know too that someday we will be reunited but while we are here and can gladden a soul let's do it! I am glad your friend had you Jen to speak into her life and you into hers. I bet she was a very special lady :>) Keep writing Jen..it is so theraputic for you, and again, others will be blessed with your insights that they may not, as yet, have ever considered or thought about. You go girl :>)
Dat's muh mommy! Thanks, Jen. That was beautiful. xoxoxoxo
reading this make me almost crry even though i didnt read all this but yeah i understand how hard to loss someone thst you love :( but i hope ur friend feeel better
I Love It.
Marlene F. 3 years ago
Wow, reading this helps me to realize that I am not alone in my grief. I do believe that time will make things better even if it never returns completely. Losing a parent seems to leave a void that may never go away, but I find that I do think about the good times more often as time goes on. Wonderful tribute to her!